"Controversial" parenting

Alicia Silverstone’s new book, The Kind Mama, is getting all sorts of press. While it’s doing a great job at making me want to read it, a description of her parenting practices as “controversial” got me thinking. I haven’t read the book, but I can hardly consider elimination communication, veganism and cosleeping controversial.

Not vaccinating, okay, yes. I don’t agree with not vaccinating. But I’m sick of that topic at the moment so I’m just going to let sleeping dogs lie there as I don’t know exactly what she says about vaccines or how it’s worded.

Sure, cosleeping can be controversial. But from what I’ve discovered researching the topic it’s not dangerous when people choose to cosleep, it’s when people fall asleep on couches or bring babies into adult beds that aren’t meant for babies. Having someone talk about the choice of a family bed could actually be beneficial to helping families get more sleep without resorting to something when they’re already sleep deprived.

Anyways, that word “controversial” really got me thinking about my own parenting practices, and what would be considered controversial. Breastfeeding at 16 months. Cosleeping. Baby sign language. Baby led weaning. Cloth diapering. Babywearing. I’m sure there is so, so, so much more that I can’t even scratch the surface. Oh, starting solids at 5 months. See, I found more.

It couldn’t have come at a better time too. At a play date the other day I nervously breastfed my son, wondering if someone would question that he was still breastfeeding, let alone often enough to need to do it right then and not at a more “opportune” time. (No one seemed to care, for the record.) Or today, K had fallen asleep while running errands, so I put him in the carrier in hopes that he would keep sleeping while I did our final stop. I’m sure it looked pretty weird, considering he’s a quarter of my size and very capable of walking, hell, running through the grocery store. But at that moment, it was amazing to have the chance to offer him a bit more sleep.

I think that’s the thing that resonates the most with me about “controversial” parenting. The things that are often labelled controversial in our society are oftentimes the things that we do when we aren’t overthinking everything, the things that come naturally. I don’t need to read a book to know that it’s wonderful to pull my baby into bed with me and snuggle, but I do need to read one (or five!) in order to sleep train him. If motherhood has changed me in one way, it’s helped me find my instincts and beliefs, my own convictions. Things I wasn’t sure that I had. Even if they’re controversial, they feel natural to me.

somecaryatid:

May is Preeclampsia Awareness month. 
I know, it’s still April. But my younger sister died in May two years ago from preeclampsia and HELLP syndrome. She had symptoms for weeks and nobody really took them seriously at first, including her. She never liked to bother anyone, and they’re so similar to the normal aches and pains of pregnancy that women overlook them or shrug them off as normal. My sister died twelve hours after she collapsed, and ever since then I meet women who say, “I had no idea it could be so serious.” 
Well, it can. Each year, women like my sister die from preeclampsia, and many, many more lose babies to it. If you or a pregnant friend have these symptoms, it’s better to be safe than sorry. Don’t wait, just call.
Awareness does matter. It’d mean a lot to me if you’d reblog this, thanks.

somecaryatid:

May is Preeclampsia Awareness month. 

I know, it’s still April. But my younger sister died in May two years ago from preeclampsia and HELLP syndrome. She had symptoms for weeks and nobody really took them seriously at first, including her. She never liked to bother anyone, and they’re so similar to the normal aches and pains of pregnancy that women overlook them or shrug them off as normal. My sister died twelve hours after she collapsed, and ever since then I meet women who say, “I had no idea it could be so serious.” 

Well, it can. Each year, women like my sister die from preeclampsia, and many, many more lose babies to it. If you or a pregnant friend have these symptoms, it’s better to be safe than sorry. Don’t wait, just call.

Awareness does matter. It’d mean a lot to me if you’d reblog this, thanks.

When the baby is having fun taking his Cheerios from the bowl and feeding them to me, and then he switches things up and takes one from his mouth and tries giving it to me.

daddy-newbie:

I’m like:

Jonah Hill gif

No! Don’t put your feet in it!
90% of all nappy changes ever (via mamalittlebit)
I just used soap nuts for the first time and I am absolute fascinated by the fact that they are actually soap! Suds and all!

I just used soap nuts for the first time and I am absolute fascinated by the fact that they are actually soap! Suds and all!

So flipping frustrated right now! If I hear of one more outbreak of a preventable disease that people are too freaking stupid to go and get immunized for I’m going to lose it! /8!:!$;’slehrbn

Ok I’ve already lost it.

It’s not the parents who suffer. It’s their children. And the children around them. It should be child abuse!

It does not cause autism.

If you say the word toxins I will punch you unless you’ve never stepped foot in a car, train, or plane; grow your own food; and weave your own freaking fabric to make your own clothes out of your own organic sheep’s wool!!!!

There are people who CANNOT get immunized. That have to rely on herd immunity. And relying on herd immunity yourself when you are able to get immunizations is selfish and makes you a BAD person. You’re putting others at risk. Case in point? MEASLES is back. Herd immunity is no longer there thanks to you.

I have zero opinions on how other people parent their children. If their child is cared for and loved, then they’re doing a great job IMO. But when the reckless decisions of others affect my child, I will voice my opinion. And if it puts my child in the path of catching a painful and possible deathly disease? Well, you just better be happy that the only thing I can do about it is rant on a blog.

End rant.

Oh yes. That was why I stopped letting him have crayons in the playroom. At least I got five minutes peace?

Oh yes. That was why I stopped letting him have crayons in the playroom. At least I got five minutes peace?

16 months

It’s been a while since I’ve done a good ol’ fashioned milestones post. K is learning and growing so quickly that it’s hard to keep track. Some things feel like a natural progression, while others are a total surprise. I think it’s time to document a few!

-NUMBERS. This totally blows my mind. He knows his numbers 0-10. He can hold up 1, 5, 4, and 10 fingers correctly and say 1, 3, 4, 8, 9 and 10. He is obsessed! He is also getting really good at recognizing letters, but I find it’s really difficult between upper and lower case and different fonts, but he does pretty well! He has always loved books so I guess this was bound to happen.

-BOOTS. His been trying for a few months now to put on his own clothes, socks, hats, boots and the like. Well, yesterday I came down stairs and he was running around in his diaper and muddy rain boots! It was too adorable and I knew he worked so hard to get them on that I let him track mud through the house. Floors can be washed, and he was just beaming with pride (and so was I!)

-LITTLE HELPER. He helps with everything. He has his own little play kitchen, broom and cloths so he will run around sweeping and wiping things with his cloth. I can ask him to do simple chores for me, like bringing something or helping out stuff away. He was also feeding the dog until the glass jar smashed into a thousand pieces (my bad) and I haven’t found a nice galvanized tin to put it in yet.

-MANNERS. This is one of my favorites. If he doesn’t get something or I ask him to wait, he starts signing please! And of course he always gets it right then because it’s too cute and he gets the most sincere, pleading look on his face. He is also really shy with strangers, but he will always sign thank you if I ask him to. Always.

-I LOVE YOU. Technically, he signs I love me, but I’ll take it. There is nothing sweeter than sitting and snuggling, and have a little hand point to your eye to get your attention, then to his own and to his chest. Melt. He also is a kiss blower extraordinaire.

-SOUNDS. He is so great at animal and object sounds. He knows sheep, cat, dog, horse, cow, bird, duck, cars, elephant, zebra, and sometimes he’ll do monkey and owl.

-BODY PARTS. He knows eyes, ears, mouth, teeth, tongue, cheeks, chin, hair and toes. Oh, and pee pee. What is it with boys?

- WORDS. I always say he doesn’t speak much, because he’s so physical and does signs, but I’m realizing that he does say quite a bit. Mama, dada, kitty, Po, doggie, boo!, blue, baby, book, mil (milk), drink, help, please, light, up, down, hat, bubbles, cookie (more of a grunt lol). I’ll have to come back to this one, it’s difficult to list them all.

-SIGNS. I have to be careful about getting him books or shows with signs in them because he learns so quickly that he’ll start signing something that I have no clue what it is. But we do: cat, dog, sheep, milk, eat, drink, potty, diaper, bird, duck, light, fan, tv, hot, cold, off, on, walk, music, dance, banana, apple, cereal, ice cream, outside, wait, sleep, book, more , socks, shoes, hat, light, help, hurt, walk, dance, music, please, thank you, baby… And possibly more lol

Watching him grow just boggles my mind more and more every day. It’s such a gift.

Random tip for DIYers

I know DIY is huge right now thanks to Pinterest. I’m currently refinishing our table as a leg was broken in the move, and I thought it would be a great excuse to try to make one of those awesome barn tables I keep seeing. Well, I spilled some paint thinner on my sock… Okay, poured it because I was trying to get stain out of it but that’s neither here not there. I washed it out with some dish soap and threw it into the wash not batting an eye.

If you know anything about paint thinner right now you’re probably going “oh noes!” (Or “you idiot” but I like to pretend ya’ll are nicer than that.) Well, my entire load of laundry and washing machine reeked of paint thinner after! And this is a cloth diapering family, we cannot risk oil build up in our washer!

I tried everything google had to offer. Vinegar. Dawn. Even a can of good ol’ coca-cola. Nothing. So finally I texted my mom for advice. And folks, she is a genius.

Let it dry. It evaporates over time! So here I was, soaking and washing and soaking some more. When all I had to do was hang everything up and give it a few days.

It worked! It was easy and free. And saved me a boat load of money that I would have spent replacing everything in that load. Not to mention my cloth diapers!

I did a few spins in the washer with some afresh after, just to be certain. Then left the door wide open to air out. (You should always leave it open at least a crack anyways to prevent smelly laundry.) My clothes are saved! All thanks to my mom.